I remember trying to get relationship chemistry going, when I was a kid.
My best resource was Playboy magazine, which I used to sneak peeks at the drug store, since I am pre-internet and pre-explicit movies,ect.
And I did not have the market savvy to know that Hugh Hefner was trying to sell me lots of stuff, rather than help me understand relationship chemistry.
Luckily for folks these days, Helen Fisher,Ph.D, has done some very interesting work on relationship chemistry.
She has used a tool that Hugh Hefner and 99% of dating coaches, gurus, mavens, and counselors could only dream about back in the day, called fMRI or functional magnetic resonance images, to look at in-love brains.
Fisher is putting a scientific face on relationship chemistry and the process we humans go through as we work to establish relationship chemistry.
One might think that science would take the mystery and poetry out of love, but I do not think that is the case.
I think that folks can be a little more practical if they understand what the feelings in the their bodies are trying to get them to do, and direct the process effectively.
Fisher's fMRI examinations have identifies three brain systems that are active in the relationship chemistry process, and it appears that each of the three has a hormone or neurotransmitter associated with it, and the presence of that neurotransmitter, for example, can be encouraged by engaging in certain activities.
(There is where the strategy of a relationship coach could come in handy).
Fisher's research also says that there are four basic personality types, and that we should make some effort to find a compatible type to have relationship chemistry with.
Contrast that to the Hefner model, which says folks should have relationship chemistry randomly, or the Prince Charming/Cinderella model which says relationship chemistry will happen after the intervention of the Fairy Godmother.
Personally, I will take advantage of the chemistry at Helen Fisher's site,
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